Two Wrongs Don't Make A Right

You’ve heard that before, right? And most of us can generally agree. But the idea that turnabout is fair play is so prevalent in the way most people operate.

“This person wronged me, serves them right that they suffer too.” It can be so tempting to rejoice when we see the guy that cut us off in traffic spill hot coffee all over his shirt. “That’s what they get,” we tend to think. “Maybe next time they won’t be such a jerk.”

There’s a story that’s been circulating online about a guy who went to a bar and tried to get a girl’s number. When he gave her his phone so she could put in her number, she logged into his Venmo account and sent herself $2000.

I saw this headline and thought, “Wow! That really sucks. She just robbed him!” I clicked on the comments and saw things like:

  • “Well, he didn’t say no, so it’s consent.”

  • “What was he wearing, though? He must have been wearing something that made her think that he wanted to give away $2000.”

  • “What was he doing alone in a bar? Every man knows that if you’re alone in a bar, you’re just asking for it.”

Look, I get it. I strongly believe that we need to address rape culture by educating people and raising our kids to know better. But this? Come on! This was theft. This was wrong.

Rape is wrong.

Stealing is wrong.

Why is stealing the appropriate response to unwanted attention? Why is this man being held responsible for all actions of all the creeps that have hit on other women?

I scroll through the comments and think - “Is this what I would want my kid to take away from this? That this was an appropriate and reasonable action? That this was justifiable or justice?”

This is stooping to the level of the lowest common a**hole. This isn’t self defense, and this nothing to further the cause of women’s rights or help us, as people, garner support. This was petty and in many places a felony. A guy hit on me so I’m going to steal from him?

Come on, everyone. We can do better. We must do better.